The Deflector: When Avoidance Becomes an Interference to Elastic Leadership

Written on 01/02/2026
Dr. Mitch Javidi

The Deflector is a cognitive-behavioral pattern characterized by the avoidance of discomfort through distraction, delay, redirection, or sidestepping difficult conversations and decisions. It is not rooted in laziness or disengagement, but in a subconscious strategy to reduce emotional or relational strain.

In its elastic form, the Deflector can preserve composure, prevent reactive decisions, and allow leaders time to regulate before acting. However, when overused, it becomes an Elastic Interference, where avoidance replaces leadership presence and necessary action is perpetually postponed.

A high Deflector score on the Elastic Interference Index (EII) indicates that avoidance has become a primary method of stress regulation. This behavior can either protect leadership effectiveness or quietly undermine it—depending on context and elasticity.

The Deflector as an Elastic Asset

When expressed elastically, the Deflector supports leadership by:

  • Preventing impulsive or emotionally charged reactions
  • Allowing time for perspective-taking before engagement
  • Reducing escalation during high-conflict situations
  • Preserving psychological safety in volatile moments
  • Supporting strategic patience when timing matters

Used intentionally, deflection can create space for regulation and reflection—especially when immediate action would worsen outcomes.

When the Deflector Becomes an Elastic Interference

The Deflector becomes an Elastic Interference when avoidance turns into a habitual leadership posture rather than a situational choice.

Common interference patterns include:

  • Repeatedly delaying difficult conversations
  • Redirecting issues to process, committees, or “later”
  • Distracting oneself with busyness instead of engagement
  • Hoping problems resolve without direct intervention
  • Using humor, charm, or task-shifting to avoid tension

Over time, this pattern erodes credibility and signals to others that discomfort will not be addressed—even when leadership is required.

Context Matters: Compliment or Saboteur

Avoidance is not inherently problematic—it becomes problematic when it replaces responsibility.

  • In highly volatile moments, temporary deflection can stabilize the system.
  • In adaptive leadership moments, chronic deflection creates drift, resentment, and unresolved strain.

A high Deflector score suggests the leader may be protecting themselves from discomfort at the cost of clarity, accountability, or trust.

Signals the Deflector Is Interfering

Leaders experiencing Deflector interference may notice:

  • Unresolved issues that keep resurfacing
  • Team members bypassing them to resolve conflict
  • Growing frustration from delayed decisions
  • Internal relief paired with external dysfunction
  • A widening gap between awareness and action

These signals indicate avoidance has become a default coping strategy, not a conscious leadership tool.

Elastic Leadership Recommendations

To reduce Deflector interference while retaining its benefits, leaders should practice:

  1. Name the Avoidance
    Identify what is being avoided: conflict, disappointment, loss of approval, or uncertainty.

  2. Shorten the Delay Window
    Commit to addressing difficult issues within a defined timeframe rather than “when it feels right.”

  3. Borrow Elastic Counterweights
    Balance Deflector energy with:

    • Drive to initiate hard conversations

    • Clarity to frame issues objectively

    • Steady to tolerate discomfort without retreat

  4. Separate Discomfort From Danger
    Ask: Is this uncomfortable—or actually unsafe?

  5. Practice Micro-Confrontations
    Build tolerance through small, direct engagements rather than waiting for perfect conditions.